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11 June 2007 @ 11:55 am
"You'll thank me for it later," means "I want you to strangle me as hard as you can."  
Little rule of thumb for dealing with me and my life, presented as a cautionary reminder:

If you ever think of doing something for, relating to, or about me that makes you think, "Well, eventually he'll see I was right, and he'll thank me later," stop right there and remember this: No. I will not. In fact, you will never hear my voice again. You will never see me again. You will never read this journal again, especially not anything filtered or important.

If you want to piss me off, there are very few ways that will get me furious faster than breaking my trust or trying to make important life decisions for me. Self-righteous, holier-than-me paternalism will get you a one-way ticket out of my life. If you are thinking something like, "He means everyone else, I'm an exception," stop right there. It means you. Especially you.

If you never believe another word I say, believe that.
Current Mood: furious on behalf of another
Current Music: Alice in Chains - Angry Chair
mincotmincot on June 11th, 2007 05:45 pm (UTC)
Ouch. Rough day / relationship? ((((You))))))))
Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 06:14 pm (UTC)
No, nothing like that. Wasn't even something that happened to me, but to a friend. Thought it might be handy to point out up front that I won't tolerate this, as the person responsible for causing the mess in the first place denies that what she did was wrong and feels that my friend has not only overreacted but that she will eventually be glad for this bitch's "help."
Steve McKnellydenali1 on June 11th, 2007 06:31 pm (UTC)

There is a saying from where we were born, my brother:

"That dog won't hunt."
Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 07:25 pm (UTC)
Indeed, where we're from, that kind of breach of trust and privacy wouldn't be tolerated. Apparently, there are some groups in this country who feel differently and draw different boundaries between acceptable and not.
Life Rebooted: plumeriahopeforyou on June 11th, 2007 06:42 pm (UTC)
I hope this wasn't someone I know.

Either way, I'm sorry you and your friend has had to deal with such behaviour.
Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 07:26 pm (UTC)
If you knew the person to whom this had happened, you'd likely have heard about it by now. Looking at your friends' list, the person in question isn't on there, so I'd guess a no.
nata5 on June 11th, 2007 07:21 pm (UTC)
Hey, I am the exception damn it! Trust me you'll thank me in the ling run. :P
Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 07:28 pm (UTC)
You are the exception to nothing! And you'll like it that way. (grin)
nata5 on June 11th, 2007 10:00 pm (UTC)
I'm an exception, maybe not in this instance, but an exception none the less.
Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 11:48 pm (UTC)
Hey, just because you are exceptional does not make an exception of you. ;)
Ace Lightning: fusoracelightning on June 11th, 2007 09:51 pm (UTC)
i'd be much more likely to just try to convince you to try whatever i had in mind. i know that, the harder i argue, the less likely you are to try it, but i'm enough of a yenta that i have to try it anyway ;-)

Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 09:55 pm (UTC)
Yeah, but you wouldn't dare try to go over my head and do something regarding my life on which I'd stated an opposition to, would you?
Ace Lightning: lightning faeacelightning on June 11th, 2007 11:23 pm (UTC)
i wouldn't do that to any living creature that was capable of understanding why something unpleasant was necessary. that is, i'd have to do it that way with a pet or a very small child - but i'd still try to explain.

Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 11th, 2007 11:47 pm (UTC)
"Necessary" to a consent-capable adult, however, is a matter of personal choice, meaning that you would not try to decide for me what was or was not necessary and act thereon, would you?
Ace Lightning: lightning faeacelightning on June 12th, 2007 12:29 am (UTC)
of course i wouldn't! suppose i found out that you had some esoteric disease, and the only thing that could save your life was some form of highly unpleasant conventional medical treatment. if you chose, instead, to try to cure yourself through fasting and prayer, i would harangue you about it endlessly, trying as best i could to convince you that putting off the medical treatment would only make it less likely that you could be cured, and that you should get the treatment done ASAP, no matter how unpleasant it was. (and if a month of fasting and prayer di manage to cure your illness, you'd have every right to say "i told you so!"). but i wouldn't trick you into getting the medical procedure, or knock you unconscious and drag you to the doctor, or anything like that. you know how much i value individual freedom.

craigers01 on June 12th, 2007 06:40 pm (UTC)
As always, you speak in such absolutes friend. =)

What if we're at con, and decide to step over to 212 market and grab a bit to eat. As we walk over, I see some gangsta bitch doing a drive buy and about to unload a mag in our general direction. Wouldn't you rather me decide to tackle you behind a parking garage wall, than to leave you standing there wondering why I had just leapt into said parking garage?

Just pointing out that sometimes it isn't always possible to take the time to consult with the "benefactor" of one's goodwill.

Now, if I had time to think something over, make some decisions, arrange for xxx to happen... well then, I would be breaking the prime directive! Non-interference in a pre-warp culture.
korobeyniki on June 13th, 2007 11:19 pm (UTC)
You know, since reading your cookie-cutter "freethinker" comments on scans_daily (and make no mistake, I'm a proud agnostic) I have not been able to isolate any single element of your writing that disabuses me of the notion that you're a complete and utter douche.
Traveler Farlandertwfarlan on June 14th, 2007 12:00 am (UTC)
Enlighten me as to why I should care.